What do you like to be called MJ?
"M'lord" is good, but I can't seem to get anyone to use it.
As Merlin says to Lauren, it doesn't really matter what you call me as long as I know you mean me--but it will help our relationship if it's something respectful (or at least not insulting).
The story, since it has to do with Gaming Outpost:
My name is Mark Joseph Young, and I was always Mark J. Young on paper. That was my signature, and still is on my checking account. My parents called me Mark, my teachers called me Mark, my peers called me--well, they called me a lot of things that fit into that category of not respectful, but those that managed to show respect called me Mark. At Luther College the girls (probably not all the girls, but since there were only maybe sixty of them at the school altogether the fact that fifteen to twenty did this is a big deal) would create "Mark J." names for me, ranging from "Mark J. Composer" to "Mark J. Creep", depending on their present attitude toward me.
I was Mark Young on WNNN-FM, and pretty well known particularly among the Charismatic/Pentecostal communities of extreme southwestern New Jersey and northern Delaware for that. We started a newsletter, and I did much of the writing and worked with the printer, who happened to be the assistant editor of a local newspaper, The Elmer Times. (Elmer is one of the small towns around here, technically in Salem County but far from everything in that county and much closer to things in Cumberland County--as if you needed to know that.) I wrote a couple pieces of political satire which they carried in their paper, but to avoid the connection between "Mark Young" the Christian radio announcer and the guy who wrote those pieces, we agreed that they would be published under the name "M. Joseph Young".
I liked the name, and by the time we were working on Multiverser I'd decided that anything I published would be under that name. Call it a nom de plume if you like; it really was my name, but in a form that I could use that sounded sophisticated or something.
When Multiverser hit the market, I got a running start on its release with the establishment of several "feeder" web sites; but I used different names on them. Sometimes I was "Mark J. Young", on the song lyrics and the Dungeons & Dragons(R) materials; but I was "M. Joseph Young" on the Multiverser site and the temporal anomalies site. (I might also have been "Mark Young" somewhere, but I don't know for certain.)
Then Gary Gygax encouraged me (and maybe fifty other people) to write something for this new web site, Gaming Outpost. I produced Morality and Consequences: Overlooked Gaming Essentials, under the name M. Joseph Young, and so joined a growing list of game authors who had articles published here. But to find out what people said about it and to interact with them, I had to create a screen name for the forum. I don't know whether "Mark Joseph Young" would have been too long, but I thought it probably would, and I also thought that it would be confusing to be "Mark Young" or even "Mark J. Young" given that the Multiverser material was all as "M. Joseph Young", but equally confusing to be "M. Joseph Young" given that the D&D material was all as "Mark J. Young". So I thought "M. J. Young" would solve the matter, and set up the account that way.
No one had ever called me "Emjay" before that, but now they did. The name stuck, and became how I was known on gamer forums everywhere, and at gaming conventions. It is the way I sign ninety-nine percent of my e-mail. There are people who know me fairly well who don't know my first name, and sometimes I get called "Mike" by people who forget; but there are also people who have made a point of learning it and remembering it and using it.
Now, there are at least dozens of late teen/early twenty-somethings around here who call me "Dad", "Daddy", "Papa", or "Padre", but that's a local thing. There are also some who work closely with me and call me "Mr. Young" because that's what think they should call me. Some of them just don't use any name at all, because they don't know what name to use.
My friends and family call me Mark, and with many of them I will sign "Mark" either alone (mostly family) or above the fuller "M. J. Young". I have grown accustomed to "MJ"; it has the advantage that it is comparatively rare--I've only once encountered someone else on a forum who went by "MJ" and that was a girl, and to some degree she threw everyone off because they so associated "MJ" with me even when they were talking with her. They call me that at Ubercon, and it's usually what's on my badges, so I suppose it's become my "professional name".
Interestingly, I have three signatures (in three different handwriting styles)--the aforementioned "Mark J. Young", the autograph "M. Joseph Young", and an artistically stylized version in which the letters of "MarkJ" are also the letters of "Young" (can be seen here), but no signature that corresponds to the familiar "MJ".
John, you don't call me "Mark" because you objected to my attempt to sign my e-mail that way. That's fine. Call me M.J., or Professor, or whatever makes you feel comfortable. Adam calls me MJ because he met me at a convention; Eric calls me Mark because we've corresponded as peers and friends. Kyler calls me "Dad", but he comes by that honestly.
I still feel funny when people write to me as "Joseph", but I guess I set them up for that, so I accept it.
--M. J. Young